It was not until someone handed me Harville Hendrix’s book, Keeping the Love You Find, did I finally understand my role in the dysfunctional. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. created Imago Harville: We wrote Keeping The Love You Find to address that. Keeping the Love You Find. By Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., ISBN 5 star must reading. [The following is what I highlighted during my read of this.
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Account Options Sign in. At-one-ment is the natural outcome of recognizing, accepting, and owning all of ourselves.
Keeping the Love You Find!
The way you respond to the projection confirms for the projector that it is true: Because we have not reoriented ourselves to the revised agenda of marriage, we’re making a mess of it. The partners in a conscious relationship recognize that harvills purpose of their relationship is to heal their childhood wounds.
I hate to say it, but there is no love in romance. From Insight to Integration: May 27, Keshia rated it it was amazing.
Feeling controlled; efforts not valued. But it only comes to couples who wrestle with their demons and stay the course during the power struggle. Your Imago match resembles your childhood caretakers. I wish I had read it a decade ago. Hendrix has many interesting things to say about the Imago and why we are attracted to pe Anyone who claims they have read this book and completed all the exercises in their entirety has to be either a flat out liar or an individual with a remarkable threshold for pain.
He thinks that marriage counselors who simply have couples bargain with each other to receive each of their needs are missing the mark. Learning more about yourself helps you get much more out of your relationships with others.
Tries to impose rules. As I read this book, I learned a lot about myself, what I want in someone, what I didn’t want in someone, and ultimately what was right for me.
Feb 27, Sharla rated it it was ok. Leeping of the Dysfunctional Family. Love, if it appears at all, appears in a marriage, as a result of our commitment to healing our partner.
Fear and impotent fury. Since that tailoring requires a modification of our original selves, we are inevitably wounded in the process.
Within our quest to unstuck ourselves, we are constantly attracted to individuals who will help perpetuate that fine of childhood and development in the hopes that this time we can actually overcome it.
It is supposed to end. A conscious harviille is not your goal. The result is a transformed relationship that consciously fosters the psychological and spiritual growth of both partners and gives something to the world at large. Partner reliability; support; standing. Jul 10, Wendy rated it it was amazing.
Keeping the Love you Find – Imago Public Site
It is how someone loves us or does not love us from birth that will be with us throughout our lives. The Messages of Socialization. Keeping the Love You Find. This book took me a very long time to complete. In “Keeping the Love You Find” you’ll discover how to: Many emotionally abused adults cannot, will not, admit that what happened to them was abusive….
She wants to be healed from this scarring experience and can only accomplish this by revisiting the wound through a monogamous relationship.
Keeping the Love You Find | Book by Harville Hendrix | Official Publisher Page | Simon & Schuster
Although his work is mainly working with couples, my personal experience in utilizing his work in my own life as a single woman was transforming. How do we reclaim our lost parts, the good and the bad, and put ourselves back together?
There are some nifty charts, exercises, and questionaires that will assist you on your path of introspection and bringing you closer to finding and recognizing a good partner. Transcending cultural stereotypes to experience our whole selves moves us toward androgyny.
Whether we admit it or not, our intimate others—partners, colleagues, and children—know about the traits that we deny ourselves.
You are much larger than your personal experience, and your context is much greater than the network of your relationships. Robyn P 7 years ago. Learning From Past Relationships. Refresh and try again.
The industrial revolution, when fathers for keeping first time left home to work in factories while mothers stayed at home, powerfully defined gender roles.
Clinging; demanding; attempts to fuse. Assert yourself; set boundaries for yourself; respect boundaries of others. In a conscious relationship, there are no exits.